Notes

Sambandha, Abhideya and Prayojana 

 Sambandha  means, "First of all, what is my relationship with God." That is called  sambandha . Just like first of all a boy or a girl is to be married. So . . . that is the Vedic system. The father, mother selects. That is called  sambandha . When they fixed up that "This boy will be married with that girl," that is called  sambandha . So relationship. Then when the  sambandha  is established by marriage, when the boy or girl is married, then the  sambandha  is done. "Now . . . now the boy and the girl may remain separately in their respective homes"? No. That is  abhidheya. Abhidheya . When they are united by the marriage there must be dealings between them. That is called  abhidheya. Abhidheya. Abhidheya  means not that "Our now marriage ceremony, relationship is established. Now you, Mr. Such-and-such, you go home, I go home." No. There must be actual activities. The wife should take care of serving the husband, and the husband should take care of the wife. Then the relationship . . . 

 Why this relationship? Why these are activities? Now, there is  prayojana . What is that  prayojana ? To get son. Marriage means to get son. That is  prayojana.