BG - 12

Verse

सर्वस्य चाहं हृदि सन्निविष्टो
मत्त: स्मृतिर्ज्ञानमपोहनं च ।

I am seated in everyone’s heart, and from Me come remembrance, knowledge and forgetfulness.

The focus of previous class was knowledge. The focus of this last class in this series will be forgetfulness.

Bhajan

Hari Hari Biphale

https://kksongs.org/songs/h/harihari04a.html

Katha

Krishna shows Universal form to Yashoda in his Mouth. The connection here is that after showing the Universal form then Krishna helps her forget the whole thing so that she again thinks he is her darling son. Through his internal energy (Yoga Maya) Krishna made Brajvasis forget many things so that his Aishwarya remained hidden to facilitate Sweet lila.

https://vedabase.io/en/library/kb/8/

APOHANAM — Krishna Gives Forgetfulness

"Forgetfulness is not a defect — it's Krishna's mercy. Without it, we'd be crushed by accumulated pain, paralyzed by endless data, and unable to move forward. If we could never forget, life would come to a complete standstill."

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THE FRAMEWORK: Why Forgetfulness is a GIFT

The Paradox: We usually think: Memory = Good, Forgetfulness = Bad

But Krishna includes apohanam alongside smṛti and jñānam as His gifts. Why?

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FIVE TYPES OF MERCIFUL FORGETFULNESS

1. FORGETFULNESS OF PAIN

• Mothers forget the intensity of childbirth pain — otherwise, who would have a second child?
• We forget physical injuries — the agony of a broken bone fades
• Emotional wounds heal — heartbreak that felt unbearable becomes manageable
• Without this: We'd be trapped in perpetual suffering

2. FORGETFULNESS OF ROUTINE

• You don't remember every meal you've eaten
• You don't remember every time you brushed your teeth
• You don't remember every step you've walked
• Without this: Brain would be cluttered with useless data, no space for what matters

3. FORGETFULNESS OF EMBARRASSMENT/SHAME

• That humiliating moment from years ago — the sting fades
• Mistakes we made — we learn the lesson but forget the shame
• Without this: We'd be paralyzed by accumulated embarrassment, afraid to ever try anything

4. FORGETFULNESS OF PAST LIVES

• We don't remember previous births
• Former relationships reset — a past-life enemy could be this life's friend
• Without this: Imagine remembering dying hundreds of times! Remembering all your past mothers, children, spouses — the confusion and grief would be unbearable

5. FORGETFULNESS THAT PROTECTS RELATIONSHIPS

• Yashoda forgot the universal form — so she could love Krishna as her child
• We forget small irritations with loved ones — so relationships can continue
• Without this: Every grudge would accumulate; no relationship would survive

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THE "STANDSTILL" ANGLE: What If You Could NEVER Forget?

Real Medical Condition: HSAM (Highly Superior Autobiographical Memory)

• People with HSAM remember virtually every single day of their lives in perfect detail
• They can tell you what they ate for breakfast on a random Tuesday 15 years ago
• Sounds amazing? Most of them say it's a curse, not a gift

What they report:

• Cannot escape painful memories — a heartbreak from 20 years ago feels fresh TODAY
• Cannot "move on" from anything — the past is always present
• Mentally exhausted — too much data, no peace
• One woman (Jill Price) wrote a book called "The Woman Who Can't Forget" — she describes it as torturous

PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder):

• This is what happens when healthy forgetfulness FAILS
• Trauma victims relive the event over and over
• The memory doesn't fade — it stays sharp, intrusive
• Life becomes impossible — can't work, can't sleep, can't function
• This is the ABSENCE of Krishna's gift of apohanam

The Point:

"We think we want to remember everything. But people who actually CAN'T forget are miserable. Forgetfulness is not a bug — it's a feature. It's Krishna's mercy."

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DAILY LIFE HOOKS

JUNIOR TRACK (Ages 5-10)

Duration: 45-50 minutes Theme: Krishna Helps Us Forget — And That's a GOOD Thing! Key Message: Forgetting isn't bad! Krishna helps us forget pain, mistakes, and scary things so we can be happy and keep trying.

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OPENING: THE "OUCH!" GAME (7 minutes)

Ask the children:

• "Raise your hand if you've ever fallen down and hurt yourself." (All hands go up)
• "Raise your hand if you cried when it happened." (Most hands up)
• "Now... raise your hand if you're crying RIGHT NOW about that fall." (No hands — kids laugh)

Ask: "Why not? It hurt SO much back then! Why doesn't it hurt now?"

Let them answer. Guide toward: "Because you FORGOT how much it hurt!"

Second question:

• "Raise your hand if you ever fell down when you were learning to walk." (Hands up — or "I don't remember")
• "Did you fall once? Twice? TEN times? FIFTY times?"
• "If you remembered every single painful fall... would you have kept trying to walk? Or would you have said 'No way! Walking hurts too much! I'll just crawl forever!'"

Point: "Krishna helped you FORGET the pain so you could keep trying. Forgetting is His gift to you!"

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THE SCARY PART: WHAT IF YOU COULD NEVER FORGET? (8 minutes)

Explain simply:

"What if Krishna didn't help us forget? What if you remembered EVERYTHING — every owie, every scary thing, every embarrassing moment — FOREVER?"

Scenario 1: The Boy Who Remembered Every Fall

"Imagine a boy named Rohan. He's learning to ride a bicycle. He falls down — OUCH! It hurts!

• But unlike other children, Rohan remembers this fall PERFECTLY. Every time he sees a bicycle, he feels the EXACT same pain again. His knee hurts. His palms sting. His heart races.
• So he never tries again. He's too scared. He never learns to ride a bicycle.
• Then he falls while running. Now he's scared to run.
• Then he trips on stairs. Now he's scared of stairs.
• Soon, Rohan is scared of EVERYTHING. He just sits in one place, afraid to move.
• Life has come to a... STANDSTILL!"

Scenario 2: The Girl Who Remembered Every Embarrassment

"Imagine a girl named Priya. One day in class, she gave a wrong answer. Everyone laughed.

• Most children would feel bad for a day, then forget.
• But Priya remembers it PERFECTLY. Every single day, she feels the exact same shame. Her face turns red. Her stomach hurts. She feels like crying.
• So she never raises her hand again. She never answers questions. She's too scared.
• She stops talking to friends — what if she says something silly?
• She stops going to school.
• Life has come to a... STANDSTILL!"

Ask:

• "Is it good that you forget your falls and embarrassing moments?"
• "Who helps you forget? KRISHNA! From inside your heart!"

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INTERACTIVE ACTIVITY: "THANK YOU FOR FORGETTING!" CIRCLE (8 minutes)

Setup: Children sit in a circle.

Instructions:

"Let's go around the circle. Each person will share ONE thing they're happy they forgot — something painful or embarrassing or scary that doesn't bother them anymore."

Examples to prompt:

• "I'm happy I forgot how much my injection hurt"
• "I'm happy I forgot falling off the swing"
• "I'm happy I forgot when I spilled food on myself at a party"
• "I'm happy I forgot being scared of the dark" (they outgrew it — a form of forgetting the fear)

After each share, everyone says together: "Thank you Krishna for forgetting!"

This makes gratitude for forgetfulness tangible and fun.

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CRAFT: "KRISHNA'S ERASER" (10 minutes)

Concept: Just like an eraser removes pencil marks, Krishna gently "erases" painful memories from our hearts so we can be happy.

Materials:

• Paper with outline of a large heart
• Small eraser shape cutout (or draw eraser in center)
• Crayons/markers
• Small picture of Krishna for center of eraser

Instructions:

1. In the heart, children LIGHTLY write or draw (in pencil) things that once hurt but don't hurt anymore:
   • A bandaged knee (old injury)
   • A sad face (old sadness)
   • A red embarrassed face (old embarrassment)
2. Paste the "eraser" with Krishna in the center of the heart
3. Explain: "Krishna's eraser doesn't remove the lesson — you still learned to be careful! But it removes the PAIN so you can be happy."
4. Around the edges, write: "मत्तः अपोहनम्" (mattaḥ apohanam — "From Me, forgetfulness")

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CLOSING MOMENT (5 minutes)

"Close your eyes.

• Think of something that hurt you before — maybe a fall, maybe someone was mean to you, maybe you were scared.
• Does it hurt RIGHT NOW? No? That's because Krishna, sitting in your heart, gently helped you forget the pain.
• He didn't take away the lesson — you're still careful!
• But He took away the hurt — so you can smile again.
• Say in your heart: 'Thank you Krishna for helping me forget.'
• Open your eyes! Remember — forgetting is a GIFT!"

TAKE-HOME CHALLENGE:

"This week, when something small bothers you — a sibling being annoying, a friend saying something mean — wait two days. See if it still bothers you as much. If it doesn't, thank Krishna for the gift of forgetting!"

SENIOR TRACK (Ages 11-16)

Duration: 50-55 minutes Theme: The Neuroscience of Mercy — Why Forgetting is Essential for Survival Key Message: Forgetfulness isn't a defect in human design — it's a feature. Without it, we'd be paralyzed by accumulated data and inescapable pain.

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OPENING CHALLENGE: THE CURSE OF PERFECT MEMORY (8 minutes)

Pose this scenario:

"Imagine you're offered a superpower: You will remember EVERYTHING. Every conversation, every face, every meal, every moment of every day — perfect recall, forever.

Sounds amazing, right? Never forget an answer in exams. Never forget a birthday. Never lose your keys.

But wait...

You'll also:

• Remember every insult anyone ever said to you — in perfect detail, as if it just happened
• Remember every embarrassing moment — feeling the exact same shame, forever
• Remember every time you were hurt, betrayed, or disappointed
• Remember every nightmare
• Remember the exact pain of every injury
• Remember the face of every person who was mean to you
• Remember every failure

And you can NEVER escape these memories. They're always there, fresh, vivid, ready to replay.

Still want this superpower?"

Let them discuss. Most will realize it's actually a curse.

Bridge: "Krishna knew this. That's why He says in BG 15.15: 'From Me comes apohanam — forgetfulness.' It's not a defect. It's deliberate design. It's mercy."

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SCIENTIFIC DEEP DIVE: THE PATHOLOGY OF UNFORGETTING (15 minutes)

1. HSAM — Highly Superior Autobiographical Memory

Present the real condition:

• Approximately 60 people worldwide have been documented with HSAM
• They remember virtually every day of their lives in perfect detail
• Jill Price, the first documented case, can tell you what she ate for lunch on any random date in the past 40 years

The Reality:

Read actual quotes from people with HSAM:

"It's like having a split screen in your mind. Half is the present; half is constantly replaying the past."

"I can't move on from things. A breakup from 25 years ago still feels raw."

"People think it would be a gift. It's not. It's exhausting."

Studies show that people with HSAM:

• Score higher on depression and anxiety measures
• Struggle to "let go" of grudges and hurts
• Have difficulty being present — the past is always intruding
• Don't actually perform better academically or professionally

Key insight: Evolution AND divine design gave us forgetfulness for good reason.

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2. PTSD — When Healthy Forgetting Fails

• Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder affects millions
• Core problem: The traumatic memory doesn't fade like normal memories
• Symptoms:
  • Intrusive flashbacks — reliving the event involuntarily
  • Nightmares — memory replaying during sleep
  • Hyper-vigilance — constant anxiety because the threat feels current
  • Avoidance — entire areas of life shut down to escape triggers

The mechanism:

• Normal memories are processed and "filed away" — they become less vivid over time
• Traumatic memories get stuck — they remain vivid, intrusive, present-tense
• The person cannot forget, and life becomes impossible

Point: "PTSD shows us what happens when Krishna's gift of apohanam is blocked. The person is trapped in an eternal present of suffering."

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3. The Neuroscience of Healthy Forgetting

Active forgetting is a brain FUNCTION, not a failure:

• During sleep, the brain actively prunes unnecessary memories
• The hippocampus "decides" what to consolidate and what to discard
• Without this pruning, the brain would be overwhelmed with trivial data

Experiment: Rats deprived of sleep cannot learn new tasks — their brains are too "full" of unprocessed data. They need sleep (and the forgetting that comes with it) to function.

Childhood amnesia:

• Humans typically don't remember anything before age 2-3
• This isn't a defect — it's protective
• Imagine remembering the helplessness and confusion of infancy, the terror of not understanding the world

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4. Forgetting Enables Forgiveness

Psychological research shows:

• People who "can't forget" wrongs done to them have higher rates of:
  • Chronic anger and resentment
  • Relationship failures
  • Depression and anxiety
  • Physical health problems (stress-related)
• Forgiveness doesn't mean deleting the memory — it means the emotional charge fades
• This fading IS apohanam — Krishna softening the sharpness of the wound

Without it: Every grudge would accumulate. No relationship could survive. Families would self-destruct under the weight of remembered wrongs.

PHILOSOPHICAL FRAMEWORK: THREE LEVELS OF MERCIFUL FORGETFULNESS (10 minutes)